Day Four Challenge – WHAT IS A COMPLIMENT THAT YOU STRUGGLE TO ACCEPT ABOUT YOURSELF?
The definition of beauty – The quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit. Long ago (I don’t like counting the years) I was at a leadership conference for adolescents. One of my follow peers, during a self-confidence building activity, turned to me and said “You have a beautiful smile”. Of course to my embarrassment my face became flushed and I quickly excused myself. I don’t remember his name but I will forever be grateful for how he made me feel in that moment….Beautiful.
Some of us have great difficulty receiving a compliment from anybody. I grew up with my mom commenting “You look beautiful” when I would dress-up or apply make-up. But she has to say that she’s my mum.
I have never put much value on anyone’s beauty or outward appearance. As I’ve stated I’m a registered nurse, I see people when they are not at their best. However I’ve seen a lot of beauty in the souls of these people.
Another memory I’d like to share….I was at a museum of fine arts and was about nine or ten. My Father thoroughly enjoyed bringing me to every museum of art or bookstore he could find in our travels which made for an interesting childhood. My Father cultivated in me a deep love for art. We were leisurely walking around the galleries taking in the beauty of the paintings and I came upon a painting by William-Adolphe Bouguereau titled “Young girl”. I was admiring the shepherdess when an elderly woman approached me and said, “You’re beautiful you look just like that little girl”. She made quite an impression on me.
In response to the challenge of the day…I struggle with accepting the compliment that I’m beautiful in outward appearance. I have struggled with it all my life to present day. I don’t believe I’m beautiful it’s as simple as that. I still take pride in my appearance I don’t schlep around Walmart or Target in my pyjamas like some Americans feel comfortable doing (why? I’d know). I have no trouble complimenting others. I enjoy telling someone he/she is kind or smart or beautiful. When his/her smile comes across his/her face it warms my heart. I have no difficulty commenting on someone’s cuteness or beauty on Instagram or Facebook but don’t ask me to take a compliment though. I don’t have an answer for why I struggle to believe I’m beautiful aside from my personal belief that I’m not. Is it a lack of “self-love”?
I’d love to hear about anyone’s experience with compliments that he/she struggles with!
Artwork Credits – “Type of Beauty” by James Tissot, “Reflections” by James Tissot, and “Young Girl” by William-Adolphe Bouguereau